Barbella
Senator
Some of us operate from the vantage that our kids aren't mindless little animals who can't control their sexual urges, and can't be taught to "wait" a few years.Again, I don't see the appropriateness of replacing the parent(s) in this instance.
We were all kids....so what happens.. is familiar.
That we assume by default that kids cant curb it, or should receive specifics at that age is an inappropriate assumption, IMO. I certainly understand and agree with age appropriate sex ed (generic. anatomy, biology, physiology...) I do not feel it proper to discuss gender identity, prophylactic use, STDs..or the provision of same.....outside of my control. And i'm pretty sure many would agree with the position.
Operating from the vantage that they by default all want to bang one another instills what i perceive to be a negative connotation to the understanding of sex and sexuality.
My granddaughter is turning 12 next month. She's into horses, photography, arts and crafts and a bunch of other hobbies... having sex is the furthest thing from her mind, guaranteed. In fact, at this point she thinks it's rather disgusting....
There's absolutely NO NEED for any goading from PP to push her in that direction. She'll get there when SHE'S good and ready... without being prompted and encouraged. When she does, she'll have plenty of people right here that she can, and will, talk to. This house is very open about sexual issues, but at the same time, no one will PUSH the kids to discuss things they're not ready for, or even interested in.
My grandson, at 15, knows all about the birds and the bees... and he knows about the responsibilities that come with having sex. At this point, he'd rather take care of his own needs than take a chance on getting a girl pregnant or catching a disease... or even getting emotionally and physically entangled to a point where breaking up with someone only gets harder and more complicated once you have sex with that person... and at HIS age, breaking up with the girl is almost guaranteed.
He's a smart kid, straight A student, honor roll, heavily into sports, and a clear vision of his future. Having indiscriminate sex and getting himself all tied up with some emotionally volatile girl by having sex with her simply isn't part of the plan at this time.