It's not about whether my perspective makes me feel good or bad. It's about whether it's consistent with the real-world evidence. It is. The contrary idea, which your rhetoric tried to put on even footing, is inconsistent with the real-world evidence. It may make you feel like a level-headed non-partisan to treat truth and lies as both worthy of the same regard, but it does nothing to advance our understanding of the issues. There's something going on, and our goal should be to figure out what it is, rather than to urge people to treat the competing explanations as equally valid.
The aesthetics of fashion choices don't interest me terribly much. I'm just not a very shallow person. If a guy wants to wear his trousers up around his nipples, or hang them low at the hips, it's all the same to me. In the present context, it's simply immaterial. What we're suffering from, right now, is a shortage of opportunity, and although a kid who wears his waist wherever tight-ass old white guys think it should be worn may have a competitive edge over some other kid who makes a different fashion choice, that doesn't do a damned thing to create a net increase in opportunities; it just possibly changes which of two individuals will get a job and which will get a rejection letter. If we want a net improvement, we need to focus on expanding opportunities, not self-congratulatory scolding of minorities over superficial crap like the cut of their pants.
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You brought up the pants. If you didn't want to talk about them, you should have made some other argument. But if what you're saying is that the pants are just a broader symbol of a willingness to conform to the cultural standards of those in power, then my point is the same: yes, that may assist an individual in winning one of the very limited number of opportunities away from another individual, but it doesn't create a net increase in opportunities. That's where a serious person's focus should lie.