I worked full time and went to school part-time myself. I'm glad that my own kids haven't had to attempt that. It was much more feasible back when I did it, and it was still a bitch. I did borrow some money from my parents at one time, but I paid them back with interest.
It is a fantasy to believe that a young person in today's America who didn't inherit wealth has a real opportunity to "pull themselves up from their bootstraps", so to speak. It's a warm, fuzzy fantasy, I'll admit. But it is a fantasy nonetheless.
I think that is the perpetuation of a myth, that that is a fantasy. It is a possibility - IF one is willing to put out the sacrifice. Yes it is a bitch. I did the same thing. But, I also think its good learning experience. Teaches you some real life skills, time management, focus, etc. All good things. Anything worth having is worth working for.
Why can't a kid do that? No other reason than we have coddled them and somehow convinced them and ourselves that they can't. Sure, you can't likely go to the school of your choice. Sure, you can't and then still go to spring break. Sure, you can't and still party on Friday and Saturday nights. Sure, you can't and still go to the home football games. But, so what? That doesn't mean its impossible, only uncomfortable... and maybe a little miserable. But, certainly possible.
I spent almost 10 years where I only had off school or work more than two or three full days in a row, starting in HS. And, most of that time, only a day here an there. No full senior week, no spring breaks. No family vacations. I took off three days to go to Senior week, three days to go to Mardi Gras for my 21st birthday and that was it for more than a day here and there - for almost 10 years. In addition to my full time job, I still took extra hours doing things like catering or nannying during school breaks. It sure as hell wasn't fun. But, it wasn't anything anyone else couldn't have done.
And, I am glad there are student loans available. And, I am not saying don't use them. I don't see that as handout. Anything you pay back - is not a hand out. But, use them wisely.
connie