I can only report what I see and hear.
As I am in that older women category I can assure you that most women are very independent. Comes from managing for years.
On the other hand men seem to be lost without a woman.
The only exception Is the clinging vine type who thinks she needs some one.
Most of us had very happy marriages, raised families, enjoyed it all. Have now moved on to enjoy other things.
So dream on.
True story from my home town. An older man was told in the Retirement Center women out weighed men two to one. So he moved in.
After a couple of months he went down to dinner and asked," Where are all these available older women? The only ones available are those who can not support themselves!"