It sounds like you want kids to be sheltered from the reality of the big bad world.in part. in turn a goodly part of the contribution comes from extremists who demand parity for all and not to be discomfited, but then when others express discomfort (the one just demanded and afforded others...) these same people scream culture war, and blah blah..
either we're all equal and are ALSO all entitled to a life free of discomfort..or we're not.
Life is tough. We need to deal with the changing times when people feel confident to be who they are.
This isn't the 1950's anymore,