Neutralizing Envy

[Zam-Zam]

Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.

-Buddha



Envy has long been a destructive force in human relationships that starts in childhood. The green-eyed monster emerges unpredictably and unconsciously shapes people's lives, for their whole lives.

We often want what others have, and neglect to appreciate what we have. This is traced to relative social comparison and personality competitiveness. If you understand its psychological roots, you can contain its destructive impact on your life and decisions...

...By understanding the psychology of this emotion, you can control a debilitating mindset. Drawing on decades of scientific research, I suggest six strategies to prevent it from destroying your decisions and morale.

1. Reorient toward gratitude. Appreciate what you have. Concentrate on your own capabilities to boost self-esteem. This reorientation helps you accept others’ success.
2. Reduce relative comparisons. Comparisons only make you feel bad, like discovering a colleague’s salary. Compare yourself downwards. Measure your present self against your past self to appreciate how far you’ve come.
3. Separate the individual. Ask if you resent the whole person or just what they have or what they can do. There's a difference. Then try to acquire, build or close that gap.
4. Review contact. It might be hard to avoid the object of frustration but deliberate distance can help. Conversely, engaging with the person you envy can dilute toxicity and humanize them more. But be careful. Closeness can backfire.
5. Regain perspective. Nobody has everything. Even the rich want the bigger crib. Marketeers deliberately manipulate your emotions to stimulate excess consumption. It’s predictable, so don’t let it dominate decisions or your behavior.
6. Monitor key events. Watch for snarky and undermining comments among neighbors or team members at events that may induce envy such as promotions, awards, or house moves.

Situations change. What you crave will pass. Another challenge, another opportunity, will come along. With a better understanding of human behavior, you can be better prepared to convert this liability into an asset.

Complete text: 6 Simple Strategies to Neutralize Envy | Psychology Today


Be at peace.

 

[Dawg]

It's why many in the NC mountains are refusing aid and saying others need it more than they do, such a story was told by a volunteer that reached an elderly woman saying she had a sping up in the woods and invited the aid worker to stay for dinner.......which here is the noon meal.

They care and don't Envy their neighbors.

 

[sensible don]

But I thought there were no aid workers in N.C.

The BELOVED messiah said there are no first responders/ govt workers/ soldiers there so this story can't be true can it? I am sure it is true, mountain people will / can survive without electric, etc - they have done it for centuries.

How do you think those first responders/ govt officials/ soldiers, neighbors feel when they are publicly bashed by him, him saying they don't exist, how this is the worst job ever. I bet he is winning all sorts of votes now - amiright?

 

[Dawg]

But I thought there were no aid workers in N.C.

The BELOVED messiah said there are no first responders/ govt workers/ soldiers there so this story can't be true can it? I am sure it is true, mountain people will / can survive without electric, etc - they have done it for centuries.

How do you think those first responders/ govt officials/ soldiers, neighbors feel when they are publicly bashed by him, him saying they don't exist, how this is the worst job ever. I bet he is winning all sorts of votes now - amiright?

Thinking seems to be your biggest problem in life!

Majority of aid workers are civilians and the 'Red Neck Airforce' (ex-Special Force members) today

BTW: do you still think Opinion links should be forbidden in PK?are flying in supplies to those that haven't seen anyone since the floods.

I doubt the election is the biggest concern of those victims with the temps in the 30's this morning and they have no shelter!

 

[middleview]

Thinking seems to be your biggest problem in life!

Majority of aid workers are civilians and the 'Red Neck Airforce' (ex-Special Force members) today

BTW: do you still think Opinion links should be forbidden in PK?are flying in supplies to those that haven't seen anyone since the floods.

I doubt the election is the biggest concern of those victims with the temps in the 30's this morning and they have no shelter!

So it is civilian volunteers flying those Chinooks?

 

[sensible don]

Some peoples reading comprehension is at or below a first grade level - seriously - and it was on display yet again above.

 

[sensible don]

So it is civilian volunteers flying those Chinooks?

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yeah - the red neck guys were flying that private helicoptor - c'mon man you knew that !

 

[Halo]

So it is civilian volunteers flying those Chinooks?

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Sure, but is a day late and a dollar short? More than likely when compared to the response of fellow American citizens.

 

[middleview]

Sure, but is a day late and a dollar short? More than likely when compared to the response of fellow American citizens.

Odd that governors all have praised Fema and Biden for the swift response.

 

[BackAlive]

Sure, but is a day late and a dollar short? More than likely when compared to the response of fellow American citizens.

It has been only a week...Shut the fvck up

 

[RickWA]

But I thought there were no aid workers in N.C.

The BELOVED messiah said there are no first responders/ govt workers/ soldiers there so this story can't be true can it? I am sure it is true, mountain people will / can survive without electric, etc - they have done it for centuries.

How do you think those first responders/ govt officials/ soldiers, neighbors feel when they are publicly bashed by him, him saying they don't exist, how this is the worst job ever. I bet he is winning all sorts of votes now - amiright?

A perfectly nice and decent exchange between posters…and you had to interrupt that. We mustn’t have anything but constant acrimony and hyper-political fighting. Lordy.

 

[RickWA]

It has been only a week...Shut the fvck up

You don’t get to decide when others speak or write, Moby.

 

[Halo]

It has been only a week...Shut the fvck up

Seriously, you think FEMA got there before Samaritan's Purse and the like? Do you have to be such a door knob?

 

[Halo]

Odd that governors all have praised Fema and Biden for the swift response.

Not really when governors need to make kissy face in order to facilitate current and future relations with government.

 

[Dawg]

So it is civilian volunteers flying those Chinooks?

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Civilians are flying many Helo's

 

[Dawg]

A perfectly nice and decent exchange between posters…and you had to interrupt that. We mustn’t have anything but constant acrimony and hyper-political fighting. Lordy.

and so cowardly don post around members and to self

 

[Dawg]

yeah - the red neck guys were flying that private helicoptor - c'mon man you knew that !

only YOU claim that to be true
I'd think some of the 'Redneck Air Force' may have flown them as Special Ops

'helicoptor"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Dawg]

Some peoples reading comprehension is at or below a first grade level - seriously - and it was on display yet again above.

Yes, you prove that by replying to yourself

 

[TBLee]

It has been only a week...Shut the fvck up

A week?

 

[Dawg]

A week?

another one of his Lies