it is indeed a sad situation,,you cant blame her,,most likely she is using some legal family members number...but she is using one...i do believe there are some circumstances where cases like hers are given a more compassionate appraisal, but its a slippery slope...some consideration should be given to her age when she was brought here and to her brothers service...im glad i dont have to make that decision
I feel alot like you and am somewhere in the middle, we knew families would be torn apart and I know Obama worried about it happening and the solution is not always so easily corrected as you mentioned oicu.
It seems not long ago Bush was begging to get people to do the low paying jobs that no one else would do here in America and they came. Not treated well but had the American dream that so many of us have had. They are treated well now, maybe too well in some cases but when our financial situation changes, I think the problem becomes more obvious.
We do have to change things and send some IA back but the ones that have been here for years, my heart goes out to, however like Lapcat they can go back home and come back legally which in the long run will make their life easier for them.